CALM - regulated nervous systems and pleasure centered living
Pleasure-based living can be the most healing thing for your nervous system.
yes, that is correct.
Recovering from illness, chronic stress, and trauma all come back to one main underlying. Our nervous system health.
For healing to take place, it has to be from a parasympathetic state.
Cognitive-centric healing work and hyper-focusing on what happened to us can often put us in closer approximation with our trauma, like when our body processes memories as current events, firing signals that keep us in a sympathetic response.
In my bodywork practice, I see how bodies integrate what they are holding when people are in a deep, relaxed, and calm space. Like a network firing throughout the body, I often witness small movements and spasms of the body processing old shapes and stories.
By allowing ourselves to go into a parasympathetic state, our bodies unwind and integrate the pattern on their own.
So what does living from and calm , regulated state look and feel like?
capacity to be at ease. capacity to create. capacity to sit with more nuance. capacity to discern. capacity to feel myself and center. capacity to connect with others. capacity to do more of what lights me up brings me joy, and makes me feel alive.
How did this inform my business vision and life pivot:
I stopped working against what was perpetually resistant. I stopped trying to make things work that didnt align with my nervous system.
Read that again.
Yes, the things that weren’t working anymore I let go of. I stopped forcing. Relationships, places, stories.
Instead, I navigated to the things that just made me feel good and made my nervous system feel safe.
and that didn’t always feel like doing what my body wanted. Some days I knew movement and mobilizing myself was the best way to get out of fawn/freeze when I wanted to be still.
I didn’t force myself to do the things that no longer felt good. Sometimes the slow calm contemplative practices like mediation aren’t it. (I wouldn’t advise someone to mediate from a fawn or freeze state)
I started seeing everything that came up in my body as information. I stopped judging it.
And things shifted. My work pivoted. I felt more at ease and connected. Each day I went to be feeling lit up instead of depleted.
I stopped feeling guilty for feeling good.
I stopped chasing chaos, as trauma can create addictive-like chemicals that keep us repeating the same patterns.
I allowed myself to feel fulfilled, lit up, and alive.
I started feeling more creative and having space in my life to create.
I stepped away from old embodied shapes and stories
Download your somatic intro book to learn more on somatic living.
Somatics often gets referred to as the body, body-based, an add-on to therapy or “ feeling into your body”. The root of somatics means “wholeness” , meaning we need the information from both our minds and bodies to make decisions that navigate towards a life of regulation and our authentic wants.
Living a somatic-based lifestyle is choosing actions and practices that help us embody the life we want to be living.
it’s living in an embodied, aliveness, and present-based way that’s aligned with the life you're manifesting.
